02 Sep, 2007

Seeing an Escort for the first time, newbies please read.

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This taken fom this website, I am coping the information because if feel it is very very very important for every potentual client to know.

Newbie guidline:



First, you cannot "expect" anything more than to pay the lady for her time with you, either at a place mutually agreeable ("outcall") or at her place ("incall"). Anything else and you may be participating in an illegal activity. Prostitution is illegal throughout the US, with the exception of the legalized brothels in Nevada. Both client and escort are breaking the law.

The following two points are important to understand:


What To Expect

· DO EXPECT her to check your i.d. carefully. She does not want to get busted. Don't be surprised if she asks you to take off pants and shorts to expose your penis. She thinks that will prove you aren't a cop (although it really doesn't). DO expect to feel like a clumsy idiot standing there half-naked!

· DO EXPECT her to turn and leave if you use any specific words that can lead to her arrest. "Hey, babe, how's about a quick blow job?" will make most escorts leave quickly, both because those words describe an illegal act and because you'd be proving you're a crude dumbass. You can NOT use any such words...at least not until you both have decided you aren't with a cop and are naked. Then you can get more specific.

These initial moments are tricky. You both share common desires --- you, sex; her, cash --- but you also both share common apprehensions because this is an illegal activity, and for all she knows you're a cop and for all you know she is a cop. My suggestion to you is to let her lead the way here. After all, she's a pro and she knows the drill. To ease the way, you might even smile winsomely and confess this is a first for you. Another way to ease through those awkward moments is to sit next to her and gently touch her arm, slowly to a leg, and let things develop.

You've probably caught on that these safe-guards are all on her side: she is discovering if you're a cop, but you haven't an equal opportunity to discover if she's one. How to get around that? I suggest you deal with escorts you _know_ have been in business for a goodly length of time (you've seen their webpages for several months or more) and who have been reviewed positively in the various sites.

I've found that it helps ease her suspicions if I offer to meet her in the parking lot and take her through the lobby up to my room. I do that because if I were an escort, I'd find that trip through the lobby a bit awkward, but I imagine the professionals are used to it. Sometimes I've pointed out my car to show it has out-of-state tags, although I'm not keen on giving away that clue to who I am.

· DO EXPECT that she may, especially if she's from an agency, phone in to let them know she's there and that things are going well. Also DO EXPECT that she will call after the session is finished to let them know she is OK and leaving for the next session or whatever.

· DO EXPECT to pay her for her time upfront, of course. The amount varies by region and by escort, but in general it ranges from around $110 (in a place like West Virginia) to $500 or more (in large cities or with one of the "super-stars"). Cash. She won't take your personal check. If she's wise, she also won't take your plastic (that can lead to a bust because it crosses interstate lines). Some will advise you to leave the money lying on the dresser, working on the premise that is less illegal than actually giving it to her. I'm not sure I perceive the distinction, but what the hell. Best course of action is to just place the money on a bedside table or hand directly to her without saying anything. Repeat don't say anything.

· DO EXPECT that once she has received the fee AND is satisfied you are not a cop (and/or not a crude s.o.b.), that she may go into the bathroom, often telling you to "get comfortable" which means you undress. This is a good time to put on all locks on the motel room door, if you haven't already done so. She'll return from the bathroom naked, or maybe in bra and panties. You can, if this is your thing, tell her that you want to undress her.

· DO EXPECT her to insist you wear a condom (or rubber, if you prefer that name). If she doesn't insist on that, I'd bail out on the premise she takes way too many risks. She will have one, but I suggest you bring your own, several in case one breaks or whatever. Not one that has a foul taste.

· DO EXPECT to treat her like a human being, not an object. Offer her a coke or a drink. See what she wants. Hell, be _nice_. In every walk of life and in every profession people who treat others with kindness, compassion and caring generally get better service.

· DO EXPECT her to treat you professionally. She sees you as a client, not her boyfriend. If you want moon/june romance, stick with a girl-friend. She is a pro and she knows about everything you can possibly suggest, so she'll do those things. Not ALL of those things. Most escorts will not accept anal sex ("Greek"), for example. But she will be ready for you to want oral sex ("French") or to put your penis between her breasts ("Russian") and such.

· DO EXPECT her to be ready to leave after you've climaxed once. If you are lucky and connect with a quality, professional escort she may well offer a second climax OR she may stay the remainder of the hour and offer to massage your back or just to chit-chat. Consider a "second chance" OR filling out the hour to be a bonus.

· DO EXPECT to let her know you appreciated the session, verbally and perhaps financially, if you feel so inclined. A tip, though not always expected is ALWAYS appreciated! Doesn't have to be a huge tip, I typically tip from $20-$50 for a one hour session. More for longer sessions or "extra-special" service.

What Not To Expect

· DO NOT EXPECT anything without a condom. Plain common sense!

· DO NOT EXPECT to perform oral sex on her. Many escorts don't like that. (consider this a bonus if you do get it)

· DO NOT EXPECT deep kisses. Most escorts hate that, (consider this a bonus if you do get it)

· DO NOT EXPECT to insert your fingers in her pussy. That hurts. (consider this a bonus if you do get it)

· DO NOT EXPECT "Greek" or anal sex, unless she specifically mentions or advertises such a specialty.


Top 10 Client Tips


  1. Make your first contact memorable. Be concise, honest, friendly and open. If you just want info (shopping?) be honest. If you want to schedule an appointment, suggest best time for you (don't say "How about some time next week?") Mention fee if you don't already know, but don't ask specific questions about it. Don't be graphic or specific-EVER.
  2. Tell her a little bit about yourself. Tell her where you heard about her. Don't waste her time--she gets plenty of inquiries, make yours stand out. Talking on the phone or via e-mail gives you a great idea what's she going to be like in person. If she's friendly and nice, she will be in person. Its also your chance to start building her perception of you. Be respectful. These girls are PEOPLE. Treat them like you would a girlfriend or lover and they will respond positively. It sounds simple, but most guys are pushy and rude.
  3. Now that you've made a good first impression, carry it through to the appointment. Show up! Be on time! Be freshly showered and presentable. Not too much "cheap" cologne, please. Be careful of doing anything that would scare her or cause her to be suspicious. Make a great in-person first impression!
  4. Be confident and relaxed. Act like you've done this before. Greet her cordially. Give her a handshake (or, even better, a short non-sexual hug!) and smile and look her in the eye. Be nice--it costs no more and it will pay off in better dividends when it counts.
  5. Place the agreed upon fee on a dresser or nightstand. Pre-counted and in a plain white envelope is always a nice touch. Don't seal the envelope. You may even hand it directly to her if it feels comfortable or if she extends her hand--but DO NOT SAY ANYTHING. Nothing. Just hand it over in payment for her time. Don't argue, ask for explanations, try to bargain, or otherwise ruin the mood at this point. Have a little trust and faith, you will be rewarded!
  6. She will likely ask you if you would "...like to get comfortable?" This is your cue to disrobe completely. She will likely go into the bathroom, wait a few minutes and then return to the room expecting to see you naked on the bed. Make small talk and get to know each other for a few minutes. Don't be grabbing and making crude remarks. Everything in its time...
  7. Talk to her--simple but very, very effective. Talk about her--compliment her attire, her hairstyle, her perfume. Whatever, but be honest--phoniness shows up quickly. If she asks about you be open and honest--it shows. Women like to relax and have a good time, just like you. Talking during the session relaxes everyone and makes it more enjoyable for all. Don't be pushy or grabby. Let her guide the session at her pace. You would be surprised at the improvement in service you'll get.
  8. After you get to know each other a bit, she may stroke or rub you a little. Let it progess on its own rhythym. She is aware of the time and will make sure you get your business done in the alloted time. At this time, she may ask "What do you like?" This is your cue to explain in more detail what you like and what you'd like to get from the session. If you encounter a "No!" response, then just don't break stride and be sure that you respect her guidelines. If its really, really important to you then you might try begging just a little. Above all, accept her limits, treat her with respect and caring, and you will have a good session anyway.
  9. Be a gentle and considerate lover. Women operate on a much more sensitive level than men to. Spend a little time on foreplay. Tell her when it feels good. Ask he if what you are doing feels good or if what you are geting ready to do is OK. Communicate and ask when you are ready to move on to the next plateau or position.
  10. If the service was excellent and the company was superb, think about leaving a small tip to express your gratitude. Especially, if you are thinking of seeing her again. Depending on the length of the visit, a token tip of anywhere from $20 to $100 would surely be appreciated--figure this into your budget for the evening. I do know that this final step has served me very, very well.
  11. Bonus Tip. The final thought here is to use common sense and civility at all times. The above points are mostly just that. Treat the girl as you would like to be treated--with respect, kindness, caring, and genuine sensitive feelings.



General Tips for the Client

1. If you are browsing an online message board, say what area of the country you are looking in. Ask for recommendations in that geographical area.

2. Read the message or review board for a while just to get the flow of how things work before posting anything. (couple weeks, if you ain't under immediate pressure).

3. When asking for reviews or help on a messge board, it is always a good idea to also be a contributor. Post your reviews or start off your message with "I saw Sue in NYC and she was ...". Then ask your question. Just broadcasting "Someone tell me something about anything?" isn't particularly effective.

4. Get acquainted with a couple of other internet sites that contain relevant information..

5. Remember that the escort may be a bit distant in the very beginning because she has at LEAST as many concerns as you do, like :

    • getting busted,
    • getting a weird/bozo client,
    • getting a no-show,... etc.

6. To keep things level, on your 1st time out go with strong local recommendations, ask for "no-tip" price for a time period for companionship, do NOT get trick with detailed questions or cool/hip lingo, and relax and tell her you're a rookie up front and just enjoy the company. She'll take care of life, don't worry about it. See TBD's Lists as a starting point in your search.

7. Talk w/her by phone/e-mail prior to appointment if possible. Treat her like a person, treat her like a lady. People do business with people, here even more so than the rest of the world.


Know your Rights!!!

To fight police abuse effectively you need to know your rights. There are some things you should do, some things you must do and some things you cannot do. If you are in the middle of a police encounter, you need a handy and quick reference to remind you what your rights and obligations are.

That's why the ACLU is making these tips available as a downloadable .pdf file. You can photocopy this and carry it in your wallet, pocket or glove compartment to give you quick access to your rights and obligations concerning police encounters.

KEEP THIS CARD HANDY! IF YOU HAVE A POLICE ENCOUNTER, YOU CAN PROTECT YOURSELF.

  1. What you say to the police is always important. What you say can be used against you, and it can give the police an excuse to arrest you, especially if you bad-mouth a police officer.
  2. You don't have to answer a police officer's questions, but you must show your driver's license and registration when stopped in a car. In other situations, you can't legally be arrested for refusing to identify yourself to a police officer.
  3. You don't have to consent to any search of yourself, your car or your house. If you DO consent to a search, it can affect your rights later in court. If the police say they have a search warrant, ASK TO SEE IT.
  4. Do not interfere with, or obstruct the police -- you can be arrested for it.

If You Are Stopped For Questioning

  1. It's not a crime to refuse to answer questions, but refusing to answer can make the police suspicious about you. You can't be arrested merely for refusing to identify yourself on the street.
  2. Police may "pat-down" your clothing if they suspect a concealed weapon. Don't physically resist, but make it clear that you don't consent to any further search.
  3. Ask if you are under arrest. If you are, you have a right to know why.
  4. Don't bad-mouth the police officer or run away, even if you believe what is happening is unreasonable. That could lead to your arrest.

If You're Stopped In Your Car

  1. Upon request, show them your driver's license, registration, and proof of insurance. In certain cases, your car can be searched without a warrant as long as the police have probable cause. To protect yourself later, you should make it clear that you do not consent to a search. It is not lawful for police to arrest you simply for refusing to consent to a search.
  2. If you're given a ticket, you should sign it; otherwise you can be arrested. You can always fight the case in court later.
  3. If you're suspected of drunk driving (DWI) and refuse to take a blood, urine or breath test, your driver's license may be suspended.

If You're Arrested Or Taken To A Police Station

  1. You have the right to remain silent and to talk to a lawyer before you talk to the police. Tell the police nothing except your name and address. Don't give any explanations, excuses or stories. You can make your defense later, in court, based on what you and your lawyer decide is best.
  2. Ask to see a lawyer immediately. If you can't pay for a lawyer, you have a right to a free one, and should ask the police how the lawyer can be contacted. Don't say anything without a lawyer.
  3. Within a reasonable time after your arrest, or booking, you have the right to make a local phone call: to a lawyer, bail bondsman, a relative or any other person. The police may not listen to the call to the lawyer.
  4. Sometimes you can be released without bail, or have bail lowered. Have your lawyer ask the judge about this possibility. You must be taken before the judge on the next court day after arrest.
  5. Do not make any decisions in your case until you have talked with a lawyer.

In Your Home

  1. If the police knock and ask to enter your home, you don't have to admit them unless they have a warrant signed by a judge.
  2. However, in some emergency situations (like when a person is screaming for help inside, or when the police are chasing someone) officers are allowed to enter and search your home without a warrant.
  3. If you are arrested, the police can search you and the area close by. If you are in a building, "close by" usually means just the room you are in.

We all recognize the need for effective law enforcement, but we should also understand our own rights and responsibilities -- especially in our relationships with the police. Everyone, including minors, has the right to courteous and respectful police treatment.

If your rights are violated, don't try to deal with the situation at the scene. You can discuss the matter with an attorney afterwards, or file a complaint with the Internal Affairs or Civilian Complaint Board.



Thank you and Play safe.



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